Full disclosure I have had a love/hate relationship with heels….actually with shoes.  I am 5′ 10″ and have some very long and narrow feet.  In addition, I have sensitive skin so wearing any new shoes is really a process for me.  First of all, finding the right shoes that actually fit my feet and then going through the process of breaking them in which usually involves blisters and calluses.

When I decided to start poling I felt very adamant that I was going to be a barefoot dancer. Heels…stripper shoes were way too slutty and really crossing the line.  Given my shoe history it also seemed like a bad idea to through add some in heels.

Much to my chagrin, here I am almost a year later and its hard for me to pole without my shoes/heels/stilts.  I love them and I am addicted to them!

First of all, pleaser shoes…I know don’t be fooled by the name.  Pleasers just please me because I can throw on a brand new pair, pole, and not have one blister or feel in pain.  Initially, my feet hurt a little bit and I was super awkward in these shoes.  However, over time they feel like second nature.  Conventional pricey fancy heels still feel like hell for me and I avoid them at all costs.  A few months ago, I wore a pair of sparkly Badgley Mischka heels to an event.  It was torture.  Beautiful shoes but not worth the pain.

Poling in shoes is so fun and freeing.  I love the extra height they give me and the clacks they make.  I recently updgraded from 7 inch to 8 inches and my only regret is that I didn’t do it sooner.  I love the way 8s look and feel.  I also love to be doing exercise and a sport while wearing heels.  

I don’t know why heels equate sluttiness?  I don’t know why I felt so opposed to them initially?  I don’t really feel sexy in heels….I just feel like a badass. 

I also love how heels have helped me shape my dancing style and character.  I have really long legs and the shoes add an extra element furthering shaping my dance.  

I used to think heels were for shorter women.  I used to be so jealous of short women who could wear heels and still be shorter than their dates.  In college I was a big fan of Sex and the City and was so envious of little Carrie Bradshaw in her Manolo Blaniks.  

Wearing heels as a tall woman is scary for a lot of people and its feels weird to tower of your date.  

I am over it and loving my tall heeled pole persona.  She may not be short and delicate but she is definitely a badass.